To Have Love and Lost

To Have Love and Lost

Yesterday – April 20th 2015 – was six years since my little  niece departed from us.

It was also a day when many people will remember the lost of a loved one.

A mother who would never see her baby died at Mount Hope Hospital just a mere three days after giving birth.

Another mother a few months ago died after a very short illness leaving two little ones alone with their father.

Will they remember their mother?

Maybe they will, maybe they won’t.

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Lost does not get easier

With every passing year the lost of someone does not get any easier.

This morning our parish priest meditated on this very point in his homily.

He talked about a woman in her second marriage who, after her first husband died, said she’ll never marry again.

 

She didn’t know how she would be able to go on without her husband.

Now years later – she knows her first husband would have wanted her to re-marry.

And so she has.

She is happier than ever.

Is it because she didn’t love her first husband?

Of course not. She loved him so much she couldn’t function for years without him after his death.

 

True Love makes Lost Harder

We often feel that way when we lose a loved one.

A lost purse is not the same as losing someone you love.

And it is because of the great love that we have for all these people that makes the lost that much greater!

Overcoming lost is not the objective. (I don’t think that will ever happen)

 

I think the objective is continuing to love without having the person physically there.

The objective is knowing that there is something great that will come out of this lost.

And like that woman who re-married – sure you may not see it now – in the throngs of pain and suffering.

But something “better” is coming.

 

Our Hope lies in Jesus Christ

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As our priest put it this morning when he referenced the Gospel reading – something better than the manna is here!

I am the TRUE bread!

Jesus was telling his listeners that he is better than the manna their ancestors ate in the desert.

That is gone.

And although it was great!

This which is here is even better.

 

Loving and losing are two things that test our faith to the core.

To truly love someone is not an easy thing.

Love is deeds not sweet words, St. Josemaria was told.

 

To lose someone you’ve loved is just as hard.

But our Catholic Faith teaches that Jesus is alive.

And those who die in Christ shall also live in Christ.

 

It is probably the hardest thing for any human being to go through.

The lost of a child.

And yet Jesus is telling us today – there is something better waiting for you!

How do you tell a parent that. Simply, “Jesus has something better waiting for you!”

 

I have thought about this for a long time, because of our own family lost.

Before any child comes into the world we first have to exist.

We have lived at least 25 years before our children are born.

We know of a time when they didn’t exist.

We know of a time when they came into existence.

And now we know of a time when they are no longer with us.

 

Think now of a child who loses their parent……….

 

I only meditated on this point today because of the lost of a parent of an acquaintance.

She recently lost her mother.

Her mother is all she has ever known.

And now she too is gone.

When a child loses their parent it’s like they lose themselves.

They lose their entire life.

 

When a parent loses a child they witness a miracle disappearing.

 

They say it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.

 

One thing I know is that every parent who has ever lost a child has always been grateful for the time they had with that child.

Because they count that time as a true miracle.

To have been blessed with even the little time we had with my niece is more blessing than some others get.

 

Rest in Peace our Sweet Ari!

Always in our hearts.

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Hilary De Freitas

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About Hilary De Freitas

Hilary De Freitas is a wife, mother, engineer and marketer. She is dedicated to helping people build better businesses using the information available to them. Apart from helping people build businesses she runs her own Knights Consulting business as well as being a network marketer. Hilary has been on a faith journey that guided her along her professional life. She shares what she had learned in her faith and how she uses it in her everyday life.

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Hilary De Freitas is a wife, mother, engineer and marketer. She is dedicated to helping people build better businesses using the information available to them. Apart from helping people build businesses she runs her own Knights Consulting business as well as being a network marketer. Hilary has been on a faith journey that guided her along her professional life. She shares what she had learned in her faith and how she uses it in her everyday life.

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